Cynical about dating
All you see is the potential nightmare of being single forever. You can be negative, what some people call “realistic,” and think that nothing will ever go well and that life will never be good.Of becoming that social outcast in the community you have dreaded and feared becoming your entire life. Or you can look at the glass as half full and realize that no matter what, if you can remain objective and positive, your life will be that much more fulfilled and enriched no matter the outcome. Start to appreciate all the things in your life that going well for you.
I think few people in this world can judge the pervasive loneliness and pain that a Jewish single must face on a daily basis. Often our hope and motivation is dim and gloomy yet we try to push forward hoping for another tomorrow. Go on vacations and trips around the world, alone, to escape from the loneliness we endure on a regular basis.To walk into a synagogue and be the only one there without a prayer shawl (the custom is that only married men wear them). Or we move to a community of other singles to hopefully increase our chances of meeting someone. Anything to feel like we are doing our part to get closer to finding that other person.To be a young woman at a wedding who is bombarded with a litany of pretentious blessings, “I hope you are next.’ To hear comments from people saying, “He’s too picky. There are times when you are single long enough that you become so depressed, so down that you lose the ability to dream.You lose the ability to have a vision of marriage or a family at all.Everything looks bleak and your future looks like it is going nowhere.